Without love, we cope under conditions that the great Spirit never intended. Couples become roommates, or worse. Warm romantic feelings come after true love is put into action. When my own marriage was in trouble, each day I took a different angle about love and chose to live it out practically toward my wife.
Our relationship took a sharp turn. It took time, but when one person loves another with unbending intent, it’s nearly impossible for that other person to remain unchanged. We must stop fighting our husbands and wives and start fighting the real enemy, apathy. It’s a lazy indifference. It wants us to nag, ignore, bristle, and withdraw. We fight against that by doing the exact opposite. When we show unconditional love to our husbands and wives, we disarm the forces of apathy hellbent on destroying our marriages.
The Warrior’s Way is not empty dialogue; it’s an active instruction manual for our everyday lives. Here’s how we can apply it regarding demonstrations of love in our marriages: Take out the trash, in love. Compliment her dress, in love. Give him a kiss, in love. Call her on your lunch break, in love. Tell him you appreciate his hard work, in love. Approach your financial problem, in love. Invite her into the bedroom, make him his favorite meal, clean up another mess, settle the kids’ arguing, in love. Do everything from a place of love, being filled by the great Spirit, whether or not your spouse does the same.
Love is a holy equalizer, removing the record of wrongs from our memories. You and I both have committed a multitude of wrongs ourselves. We can keep track, or we can keep our marriages intact.
Acts of love create a breeding ground for feelings to germinate. Any reasonable spouse will respond to being loved well. Loving your husband breaks down his defenses. Loving your wife softens her spirit. Impeccable marital love begins with obedience and ends with blessing upon blessing.
If you love your spouse, you will actively look for ways to enhance his/her life on a daily basis. Like so many, I have been in a place of constant bickering and I’ve been in a place of cold indifference in my marriage. Neither of those conditions is worth settling for. Love is the answer and while it’s wonderful to be on the receiving end, be the great Spirit’s conduit, first and foremost. It’s doable if you’re available. Do you want to feel love in your marriage? Nothing will fill your heart more than mirroring the unconditional impeccable love toward your spouse. Love with everything you’ve got, and you’ll have everything to gain.
Let’s Meditate: Great Spirit, thank you for loving me. When I consider how much You have loved me, even at my worst, I am humbled. I believe that if I am impeccable, love will flourish in my marriage. Help us not to fly off the handle! Stop us from keeping a record of wrongs. Help us to always look for the best in one another! It hurts when I don’t feel loved by my spouse, but I refuse to give in to hopelessness. I picture our relationship as one where love cannot be contained!
Warrior of Lite
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